For much of my life, if you had asked me what prosperity meant, I probably would have given you a financial answer. How much money do you make? What do you own? How successful is your business? How much is your net worth?
I understood that kind of prosperity very well. I knew how to work, take risks, build businesses and make money. I eventually became wealthier than I ever imagined I would be when I was starting out.
What I didn’t understand was how someone could become financially successful and still be miserable.
That was a much harder lesson.
It took me years to recognize that I had concentrated an enormous amount of my energy on one area of my life while assuming the rest would somehow take care of itself. I thought financial success would create security, happiness and eventually fulfillment. Money certainly made many parts of my life easier and gave me opportunities I would never have had without it, but it couldn’t do everything I expected it to do.
Today, I believe prosperity has four essential components: financial, mental, physical and spiritual. I call them the Four Pillars of Prosperity.
These pillars have become the foundation of how I look at my life. They aren’t four separate lives that we somehow have to manage. They are connected, and what happens in one area inevitably begins to affect the others.
Financial Prosperity: Creating Freedom
Let’s start with money because I don’t believe in pretending it isn’t important.
Financial stress can affect almost every part of your life. If you are worried about paying the mortgage, keeping your business alive or having enough money to get through the month, that pressure doesn’t disappear when you leave the office. You carry it into your relationships, your sleep, your physical health and your state of mind.
Financial prosperity, however, doesn’t necessarily mean becoming a millionaire. The amount of money required to create freedom will be different for each of us.
For me, the goal is freedom.
Money can provide safety and choices. It can allow you to take care of the people you love, invest, travel, give generously, pursue your passions and have greater control over your time. I believe in entrepreneurship, investing and creating financial abundance. I am certainly not going to tell you that wanting to make money is somehow wrong.
What I learned is that making money without understanding why you want it can become its own trap.
If every increase in income requires an increase in lifestyle, how much will ever be enough? If your identity depends upon your net worth, what happens when your financial circumstances change?
I learned those lessons the hard way. Financial prosperity should increase your freedom, not become another form of bondage.
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Mental Prosperity: Learning to Live With Your Own Mind
You can change your financial circumstances without changing what is happening inside your head.
I know because I did it.
I reached levels of financial success that the younger version of me would have found almost impossible to imagine, yet I still struggled with fear, negative thoughts and feelings that I wasn’t enough.
For years, I thought the answer was another achievement. If I could solve the next problem or reach the next goal, surely I would finally be able to relax.
There was always another goal.
Mental prosperity required me to become aware of the patterns I had developed over a lifetime. I had to start paying attention to the way I thought, how I reacted to fear, the stories I told myself and how often I created stress over things that hadn’t even happened.
Meditation, gratitude and learning to become more conscious of my thoughts eventually became important parts of my life. None of that meant that problems stopped happening. It changed how I responded to them.
To me, mental prosperity isn’t walking around happy every second of the day. That’s not realistic. It is developing enough awareness and resilience that every difficult thought doesn’t get to control what you do next.
Physical Prosperity: Taking Care of the Body That Carries You
This is one I ignored for far too long.
Ambitious people can be very good at negotiating with themselves about their health. I’ll exercise when work slows down. I’ll sleep when this project is finished. I’ll eat better next month. I’ll take some time off after the next deal closes.
There is always another deal.
I became extraordinarily successful financially while allowing my physical health to deteriorate. At one point I was heavily overweight and relying on medications while continuing to push myself.
Eventually, you have to ask yourself what all the success is for if your body isn’t healthy enough to enjoy the life you’ve created.
Physical prosperity means respecting your body as an essential part of your success. Nutrition, movement, sleep, rest and taking care of yourself aren’t luxuries to be addressed after you’ve accomplished everything else.
I used to think I could postpone them.
Your body has a way of eventually informing you otherwise.
Spiritual Prosperity: Understanding What It Is All For
The spiritual part of my life took much longer for me to understand.
For me, spirituality means my connection to the Divine. I identify that through Christ Consciousness, but I don’t expect everyone reading this to share my beliefs or use my terminology. You may call it God, Source, the Universe, Creator or something else.
The important part for me was recognizing that my life needed something beyond my own ego, ambitions and possessions.
I had spent years asking questions such as: How much can I build? How much can I make? How successful can I become?
Eventually, I started asking different questions.
What is all of this for? What kind of person am I becoming? What am I contributing? What is my purpose? Am I actually listening to my intuition, or am I simply trying to control every outcome?
Those questions changed me.
My spiritual life has taught me about gratitude, humility, intuition, trust and surrender. It has also helped me understand that fulfillment isn’t simply something you acquire. There has to be meaning behind the life you are creating.
Why All Four Matter
This is where my understanding of prosperity changed most dramatically.
The four pillars don’t operate independently.
If you neglect your physical health, eventually it can affect your ability to work, think clearly and enjoy your financial success. Financial instability can create enormous mental stress. Poor mental health can affect relationships, decision-making and physical health. A lack of purpose can leave someone wondering why they’re working so hard in the first place.
And strengthening one area can positively influence the others.
The goal isn’t to have every part of your life perfectly balanced every day. I don’t live that way, and I don’t know anyone who does.
Sometimes your business needs more attention. Sometimes your health does. There will be periods when your family needs you, when your finances require more focus, or when something happens that tests you mentally or spiritually.
What matters is recognizing when one part of your life has been neglected for too long.
Take an honest look at your own life today. How are you doing financially? How are you doing mentally? What is happening with your physical health? Do you have a spiritual connection or sense of purpose that means something to you?
You will probably find that some areas are stronger than others.
That’s okay.
The point is to know where you are.
A Different Definition of Prosperity
I still believe in financial success. I still believe in dreaming big, taking risks, building businesses and creating wealth. What has changed is that I no longer believe financial success by itself is enough to create a prosperous life.
I want the money and the freedom it can provide. I also want to wake up healthy enough to enjoy that freedom. I want peace in my own mind. I want meaningful relationships and a connection to something greater than myself. I want to understand why I’m doing all of this in the first place.
That is what prosperity means to me today.
It took me decades of tremendous success, painful mistakes, financial losses and rebuilding my life to arrive at that definition. Much of what I now believe came from doing things in exactly the wrong order.
If sharing those lessons can help someone else find greater balance before life forces them to, then perhaps some of my mistakes can serve a purpose.
Discover the Four Pillars of Prosperity
My upcoming book, Prosperity Principles: The Four Pillar Plan to Freedom, tells the story behind these lessons and explores how financial, mental, physical and spiritual prosperity can work together to create something much more valuable than riches alone: a life of freedom and fulfillment.
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